If you have one primary long-term partner or several lovers that you’re intimate with, I strongly recommend you brief them on what you’re doing here. This is partly because secrecy can create tension that contributes to involuntary explosions of the seminal variety. Chapters 3 and 4 discuss solo pleasuring because refining your arousal pattern is exciting enough in private. If someone else is present, it could be too exciting at first, or too embarrassing to relax. At this point, before you’ve begun your practice program, I don’t suggest you say a whole lot. That’s why I’ve called this a “briefing.” If you’ve found our website, together, that’s ideal. You’ve started as a partnership and have already talked about it. Great! You’ll still want to alert your partner that you’re starting a series of private exercises so they’ll understand what you’re up to when you disappear every day or so.

If you’re partner isn’t yet aware of what you’re doing, here are some suggestions about how to approach your short talk…

“I found an interesting website recently about improving our lovemaking. It’s based on Tantra, an ancient spiritual practice that uses sexual energy to raise consciousness.” I want you to know that I’ll be doing some solo sensuous exercises in private for a few weeks. They’re designed to help my personal development. I’ll let you know how it’s progressing and hope to get you involved soon.” Do you want to read about Tantra onso you’ll understand more about what I’ll be doing?

“The more forthright you’re comfortable being, the better. If you want to be more specific at this stage, you can also say…”

I’m reading Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery, the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution For Premature Ejaculation. I believe that by using this program I’ll be able to really lengthen our lovemaking. Are you interested in reading the manual that describes what I’ll be practicing?”If this is difficult for you, it would be a good idea to talk to a sex therapist or counselor about changing your relationship dynamics. The more support you get from your partner, the faster your results will be. If you’re near Tahoe, Jeffre and I are more than willing to help in person. If you’re farther away, we can help with phone counseling.