These next exercises are all about developing the A of RAMPER, namely awareness of your body. This is how you will learn to be more present and focus in the right direction. Do you remember that presence and visualization together are one of the four cornerstones of ecstatic sex?

Did anyone ever suggest to you that the way to avoid cuming was by thinking about baseball, work, or your grandmother? Well, this part of the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution is the exact opposite. It’s about paying maximum attention to the sensations that arise in every part of your body. By opening your senses more, you can enjoy each little moment of pleasure to the fullest. Of course, this requires slowing down and relaxing into the experience. Your aim is to engage all of your erogenous zones and your whole body. When you relax into feeling the excitation in your head, feet, butt, and nipples, just to suggest a few subtle erogenous zones that I’ve learned to make me very hot, you shift your focus away from your genitals. This is a basic premise of the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution, spreading the energy away from the genitals, so you can have whole body orgasms without an explosive ejaculation from your oneeyed pleasure stick. I know that it’s one thing to practice by yourself and another when you’re with a wildly bucking partner. But believe me, most lovers really want the slow sensitive savoring attention that opening your senses brings. Let’s start solo anyway and worry about engaging partner cooperation once you’ve mastered the basics.

Exercise: Vipassana Meditation
This is a sensory meditation designed to open multiple senses at once. Practice this exercise in a safe place outside where you won’t be interrupted (your back yard when no one is home?) or inside if necessary. Take your shoes off if you’re inside or if it’s safe outside to walk barefoot where you practice. You can wear clothes for this exercise, but it’s also great if you can do it in the nude, especially outside if you enjoy that.

1) Close your eyes and stand still comfortably, watching your breath for a few minutes until you feel relaxed.
2) Feel the level of tension and relaxation in every muscle starting with your feet and moving up to the top of your head.
3) Next, while maintaining total awareness of your body, you’re going to move around very very slowly with maximum consciousness. Don’t open your eyes completely but keep them softly focused so you don’t hurt yourself. Walk as slowly as you can, feeling the minute movements of every muscle as you lift each foot and leg. Then feel the pressure and motion of your whole body as you set it down and shift your weight, feeling the texture of the grass or floor, or the hardness and evenness of the ground.
4) After a few minutes of complete focus on the physical sensations of walking, add paying attention to your sense of sight. Observe slowly and in detail what you see: shapes, textures, and colors. Maintain total awareness of your body while walking. If you accidentally shift your attention entirely to your sense of sight, remind yourself to keep feeling everything happening in your body as well.
5) When you’re ready for more, add your sense of hearing. Listen for any and all sounds around you. If you’re outside, you might hear the wind, the rustle of leaves, birds, and cars. If you’re inside, you might be amazed at all the ambient sounds all around you: creaking walls and floors, plumbing and heating, and noises from computers and appliances. Now you’re sensing your body, sight, and hearing all together.
6) Finally, add your sense of smell. If you’re outside in the spring, there will be many wonderful scents on the wind. Whenever and wherever you are though, include anything your nose picks up.