If it bums you out to think about all that goes wrong when you cum too soon, you might be tempted to skip this section. But don’t. Though I’m sure you know some of them, I’ll bet you aren’t aware of all of the factors that can cause too rapid timing of your orgasm. In fact, after a long career of ejaculatory mastery, some men acquire this condition temporarily because one or more of these causes rear their ugly head.

• The Urge To Cum I want to hit the biggie right on the head at the outset here. When we get turned on, something inside takes over and convinces us to just let go. That’s what I call the urge to cum. There always used to be a rationalization in my head that seemed to make sense in the moment why I should blow my wad. I usually regretted it latter. It may sound like circular reasoning to say that the urge to cum is the reason you cum too quick. We all have the urge to orgasm, right? Well, of course. And for a microsecond I don’t want to give you the idea that there’s anything wrong with it. The craving for pleasure is what life is about. Keep that up, for God and Goddess’s sake. But what kind of rgasm are we talking about seeking here? Yours, a quickie, your lover’s, or a full body multiple one? The biological urge to cum circumvents your power of choice in the matter. 16 As a result of over 30 years helping people change their behavior, I’m convinced that few succeed at STOPPING something they don’t want to do. The secret is to replace what you don’t want with something better that you do want. Fortunately, the Ultimate Ecstatic olution is something so much better that once you develop the knack of inner orgasm from the exercises in this book, you’ll never want to go back and spray your seed outside.

• Overwhelming Excitement This must have happened to all of us at least once if not frequently, as it did with me. You’re really attracted to that completely sexy thing who actually wants to have sex with you. You’re so turned on by the whole prospect that before you know it, you cum in your shorts or, even worse, all over her skirt. God, I hate remembering those embarrassing times and wouldn’t mention it if I wasn’t confident this will soon be a thing of the past for you. Being overwhelmingly excited is akin to being a red-blooded healthy male. The younger a man is, the more excitable he tends to be. It’s common that the first few times young, inexperienced men have sex with a partner, they have trouble controlling their response. Since we haven’t been taught any other way, we just blindly follow the natural flood surging inside us and soon our pants are wet. So many of us just haven’t learned that there is another way to deal with the huge energy build-up. If you’re patient and willing to wait a decade or three, high excitability will mellow with age. If you’d like a solution sooner, read on.