As you’ve done before with self-pleasuring, your next assignment is to use sexual breathing to channel the energy throughout your body.

1) Lay on your back with your partner straddling you.
2) Ask if she is ready for vajra and guide him to slowly penetrate yoni. When vajra is completely inserted, remain still, simply feeling the sensations until your excitement begins to lessen.
3) Ask your partner to move slowly while you move as well.
4) Both of you should keep communicating openly and frequently about what’s going on inside each of you.
5) When you reach 6, instead of stopping, slow down slightly. Open your eyes wide, inhale more deeply into the belly, but this time through the NOSE, and hold your breath. Relax completely as you exhale, visualizing your sexual fire streaming out of vajra, and moaning with pleasure to release energy.
6) Inhale again through the nose, visualizing that pleasurable energy moving up vajra through your pelvis to your heart and higher. Use one long or several short PC Pumps to help you shoot the energy upwards. Peak like this six times.
7) Repeat peaking using sexual breathing six times at 8 and then at 9. Now, use sexual breathing to plateau, first at 6, then 8, and then 9 or more. As you get more comfortable with your ability to maintain a high level of excitement, you’ll be able to float closer and closer to 9.9. The more you relax and open to orgasmic energy, the more you’ll experience implosive orgasms. You will find that, as you learn to handle more and more energy, your point of no return gets higher and higher.

Exercise: Different Positions

If you’ve followed my directions so far, you’ve been practicing almost exclusively with your partner on top. If you haven’t, I applaud you for moving ahead at your own pace. Regardless, it’s time to play with the other sexual positions available to adventuresome Tantric students like you. This exercise will be more freeform than previous ones. As you experiment, use everything here that works for you. Below I’ve listed multiple variations of the five basic sexual postures: woman on top, side to side, man on top, rear entry, and facing positions. They’re arranged in the order that I believe goes from least to most stimulating. What’s the best order for experimenting? There’s no scientific standard, so pay your money and take your chances. You remember the old joke about the octogenarian at a sex lecture who yelled from the back row that he’d tried 101 postures. After the laughter died down and the speaker started describing the missionary position, the geezer jumped up screaming “102, 102!” Well, I probably haven’t covered every position here, and certainly haven’t detailed the exact arrangement of your limbs in each case. This exercise is included to stretch your comfort zone around postures you might not otherwise experiment with. With perseverance and a little luck, you just might find combinations that turn your partner on while maintaining your excitement at a manageable level. As you try out different postures, keep your attention focused on your arousal and your sexual energy. Which positions turn you both on the most? Which strokes please you both the most in which positions? In which postures can you relax the most? In which positions can you sexually breathe - rock your pelvis, breathe in the belly, squeeze your PC - with most effect? Which postures allow your energy to flow up your inner flute the most?