Lovers with a deep heart-to-heart connection will inherently want the best for each other. With agreement on the vision of Tantric lovemaking, they’ll naturally accept the roles being spelled out here. But lovers who believe that they’re totally at fault for their partner’s genital sensitivity may be reluctant to fully engage. Both must own their share of the situation openly. Partner who feel completely responsible for their lovers’ pleasure might push for explosive orgasms to prove their love. Lovers insecure about their sexuality may feel that making their partner cum proves that they’re sexy, desirable, and skilled in bed. If you find yourself in this situation, explain about implosive energy orgasms and that ultimately we’re each the master of our own ecstasy. Lovers who don’t have orgasms easily may lose themselves in a rush towards explosive relief, dragging their partners over the edge. They need to understand about the advantages of playing without goals, and how bigger and better orgasms may eventually result.

Explain how basking in the flood of excitement in each moment lets the energy build to higher and higher plateaus. Without this frank kind of dialogue, your sex partner may push you into a style of fucking that won’t work for you early in the program, or ever. To prevent this from happening, remind your lover about how much more pleasure you’ll both receive by starting slowly. Remind your partner how much pleasure you receiver from IMPLOSIVE orgasms. Remind your beloved that you’ll be less sensitive after one of these inner energy experiences and ready to stroke faster and deeper for a while. Above all else, remind your partner that you can go to unheard of altered states together through Tantric lovemaking by changing the rules of the game of sex.

To Cum Or Not We sensitive guys may still have the familiar urge to cum as our occasional or constant companion. Even if you’ve begun to experience something better than a quick squirt, old programming sometimes dies hard. So before we begin partner exercises, we’d be well-advised to address the age-old question “to cum or not to cum?” (Isn’t that from Shakespeare?) With a partner in the mix, answering becomes a more complex dynamic. You realize that I’m pro-cuming in general because I strongly believe that pleasure in all forms is a good thing. So maybe you’ll accept my suggestion of moderation in good grace. I think it’s a good idea for the two of you to commit that neither will intentionally go for the Big O during practice sessions without open agreement first. Be sure to discuss the consequences of the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution’s learning strategy - getting close to the point of no return repeatedly will cause mistakes. You need to learn to read each other’s signals and collaborate together to stay in the bliss plateau. Also, it would be great to make a deal that you’ll both enjoy all orgasms together, whether dry or wet, intentional or accidental, and sometimes go for it.