When you retain your energy inside, your pleasure rises to higher and higher levels. That’s why the acronym RAMPER is so apt, describing how your pleasure ramps up. Those of us who cum quickly never experience these escalating plateaus. We never develop our capacity to absorb more and more pleasure. When we finally do, it feels like ecstatic waves surging inside. What was a 9 on the arousal scale half-an-hour ago now becomes so much more.

That’s what R is about.
Here’s what my beloved wife, Jeffre, says about sex…

” Straight pumping is boring and makes me numb. I really love to go slow, like pump, pump, pump, and relax. I just let the energy wash over me. Then a few more strokes and the orgasmic waves, little implosive orgasms,
roll through me. By doing this over and over again and again, I eventually get to higher and higher plateaus.”
You see how the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution is ecstatic when all the pieces come together? You relax and heighten your awareness of your senses to open yourself to subtle energy. By measuring your arousal, you learn to pace, peak, and plateau. This builds up intense energy which you circulate around your body instead of exploding in a quick ejaculation. Then the wave takes you, and you just float. When your energy rises to your spiritual centers, the higher chakras, you’ll find a natural calming and blissful feeling engulf you. It’s as if your orgasmic energy is fueling your soul’s psychic nature. This is why we call Tantric lovemaking sexual meditation. Some describe this as feeling like a hollow bamboo with a never-ending supply of energy running between the earth to the sky through your body.

Tantric lovemaking uses the same body parts and erogenous zones you see in X-rated flicks. But the actions inside and out are vastly different. Tantric lovemaking, being equally spiritual as physical, is slow and conscious. It’s not focused on orgasm, but on building pleasure and making it last forever. This takes harmony, openness, and lots of communication between partners. As you play more and more with the same partner, you’ll undoubtedly learn moves that please them and cues that tip you when to use them. When you meditate sexually together, you must each be totally centered and responsible for your own personal experience. Lovers want different things at different times. Even the most skilled lovers can’t always predict the whims and changes erupting in spontaneous love play. So both partners must be tuned in to themselves as well as to each other. This only works when you welcome guidance from your lover, whether verbal or subtle. Tantric love partners are truly a team, totally in sync with each other.

If you’re single and trying to attract a partner, or have one who’s into a totally different experience, riding the kind of orgasmic wave I’ve just described may conjure up problems. I’m good at orgasmic mastery, but when I’m with a pump, pump, pump wild partner who isn’t in sync with me, I’ll cum quickly too. There are different styles of lovers and we’re not all compatible with each other. Later I’ll show you how to motivate, encourage, guide, and coach potential or current sex partners so you can build a Tantric love team. But this may not be what some lovers want and you may have to simply accept that they’re not for you.